Ever wonder what to say in these specific situations?

What do I say on an interview so I get the job?  What do I say to my boss so I get the raise I want? What do I say so people will return my phone calls and e-mail's? What do I say to a difficult co-worker so we get along?

I have created a series of telephone seminars so you can learn something new; specifically what to say at certain important moments in your career.   

All the experts say to ask for what you want in your career, but what's missing most of the time are the actual words to make your career

goals real and your career wishes come true.

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1. Step back and ask yourself what's really going on.

When you're caught up in the stuff of every day life, it's easy to lose objectivity. It's a good thing to set aside a little time each day to seriously challenge the obviousness of what seems to be going on. Is there a lesson to be learned that you are missing? Might that setback really a step forward? Will things really turn out as bad as you are sure, now, that they will?

2. Consider whether what's happening has happened before. 

Is this a unique situation or is it one-of-a-kind, just another example, in different garb, of an issue you've failed to confront before? If it's the latter, maybe now's the time to solve it and move on.

3. Assume that present events, circumstances, etc. may be less of a "problem" than parts of a larger "process".

There's a fair case to be made for the notion that, in this life, ALL is process rather than result. In other words, what this life is really about is growth and learning. Viewed in this light, where you're heading is not as important as how you choose to get there. (For those who are strongly goal-oriented, this may be tough to swallow.)

4. Ask yourself: What can I do "now" or "next"?

It's the small steps that lead to successful journeys. Don't get sucked in by the suggestion that you've got to do it/solve it all today.

5. Do something, anything!

When you're stuck, taking any step puts you in a different place and helps change your perspective. Taking action, and that's any action at all, keeps you from feeling like a victim. Once you take your power back, there's nothing that you can't accomplish.

6. Look for support, near by.

Almost always, help is at hand, a phone call or a touch away. Only, we tend to look way out there or off into the future, thinking that the help we need is just not available to us in our present situation. If, instead, you begin with the assumption that what you need to solve the problem is close at hand, you'll be amazed at how it sharpens your vision!

7. Take the negatives, one-by-one, and toss them out.

Negatives can be just as powerful as positives, depending on how much energy you give them. It's your choice.

8. Take one positive unselfish project and make it yours.

Help someone else, even if you think that you're the one who needs help. And don't be surprised if, in your darkest moment, someone comes knocking at your door asking.

9. If lack is a problem, try substituting the word, "service", for profit or gain.

You "get" from what you lack, but you "give" from what you are. When you begin to consider seriously how you can be of service, it can be absolutely amazing how much you discover you have to give.

10. Be grateful for every blessing.

It's not big jumps that lead to greatness; it's small steps. The "little" good things that happen to us (and sometimes they seem to be VERY little) are tests of our awareness. It pays off not to flunk these tests!

So, what do you say? You only have one life to live, so it might as well be a life you love! 

This piece was written by Shale Paul, Coach, who can be reached at shale@shalecoach.com. 

Since many of my subscribers are coaches, this section is for you. It contains tips and techniques to take your coaching practice to the next level.

Want to make coaching your next profession? Here are a few tips to make it happen.

1. Give yourself time to make the transition into your new role.

2. Consider how much you presently spend on business clothes, transportation, eating out, etc ... subtract this from the amount you need to earn as a coach each year.

3. Consider how many years you'll add to your life by doing something you love.

4. Ask your friends and family to support you.

5. Be happy in your current job and your ability to live in two worlds for the time being.

6. Get the basics for your new office up and running: phone, answering service, computer, desk and chair. Get control of the environment if you plan to work at home.

7. Find out about independent health insurance, get over the price of it and get it in place.

8. Practice anonymously at the grocery store or theater ... What do you do for a living? Ok, nonchalantly now, I'm a coach. Are you smiling?

9. Learn 5 different ways to describe what a coach does and does not do.

10. Tune in to the flow and wait for the right time to pull your car onto the road.

This piece was written by Nancy R. Fenn, author, VisionCoach and personal consultant, who can be reached at freya200@hotmail.com.  
 

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