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Current Issue: October,
2005, Issue #78 Where is your career headed? |
Welcome to Surpass Your Dreams. The goal of the newsletter and weekly tips is to help you recognize your potential and surpass your dreams. Included are tips for either transitioning into a career you love, excelling in the career you have now, or creating simplicity in your life.
I. THE DIRECTION YOU TAKE YOUR CAREER IS UP TO YOU
Part I.
Does your career seem to be going nowhere fast? Is it because of the
economy, your company, your boss, or your co-workers? Is it everyone’s fault
but your own?
Your career gets better when you make it better and that requires your
participation. Circumstances can throw us off-track from time to time. But,
the person responsible for the direction of your career is you. (Even if it
does not feel that way.)
Being responsible for your career sets you free. Once you are accountable, you can asses what’s working, and eliminate what’s not. You can make changes that need to be made because you know you are the person who can make them.
Once you take responsibility, you have no one to blame anymore. You get the
control back into your career. You can move forward because you know you
have to power to do so.
See Part II continued below…
Ever wonder what to say in these specific situations?
What do I say on an interview so I get the job? What do I say to my boss so I get the raise I want? What do I say so people will return my phone calls and e-mail's? What do I say to a difficult co-worker so we get along?
I have created a series of telephone seminars so you can learn something new; specifically what to say at certain important moments in your career.
All the experts say to ask for what you want in your career, but what's missing most of the time are the actual words to make your career goals real and your career wishes come true.
To find out what you can say to move your career forward by visiting: What-to-say-when-telephone-seminar-series.html
II. FIVE STEPS FOR MOVING YOUR CAREER FORWARD NOW
Part II.
So How Do You Take Responsibility For Your Career. Follow These Five Steps Below:
1. You Decide To Be Responsible
An attitude that begins with “I don’t care” or “I’ll wait for things to improve on their own” can one day become a problem that is so overwhelming that you are not sure how to deal with it. (Don’t let this happen to you. If you are already overwhelmed by a complacent attitude, know that there is a way out.) If you do not deal with your career now, you will have to deal with it later. If you are not working on your career, your career moves without direction. No direction means no goals, which means no progress.
Being responsible does not mean you are chained to your commitments. It means that you recognize that if your career is not going in the direction that you would like it to go that it’s up to you to take it in a different path.
2. You Find Someone Who You Can Help With Their Career.
What? Help others? What about me?
Sometimes when we are upset about our careers we go inward. Introspection
is good when it helps us regroup. Not good when all we think about is our
career problems. Looking to helps others can motivate you to take action.
Helping a colleague with career challenges will give you objectivity about
your situation. You’ll also get energized, inspired, and motivated. And,
you’ll feel better. Helping someone else will help you move forward in ways
that you’d never imagine.
3. You Become Inspired .
My clients ask me what inspiration means. I tell them that inspiration is an almighty force that arises from inside. It lights you up and gives you more power than you ever expected. It's what pushes you to pick up the phone, write another letter, or send out another e-mail when you don’t feel like it. Recall a time in your career when you were excited and energized because everything was going your way. Apply that feeling to where you are now.
To become inspired, put your disappointments behind you. They serve only to hold you back. Recognize that your career will improve when you take responsibility for improving it. Inspiration will help you to change your career for the better.
4. You Create A Plan
What do you want to happen in your career? Are you crystal clear or do you have a muddied idea of where you would like to be?
You cannot get to where you want to go unless you know where you are going.
How do you know? You listen to your gut. You listen to that nagging feeling inside that won’t go away. You take small steps in that direction. Will you have all of your answers up front? No. But if it feels right, it probably is right.
Create your vision. Where would you be if you could not fail? What would you do if there were no obstacles in your way? Get your vision on paper and look at it everyday. Then, develop a plan for reaching your goal. What will you do first? Second? Third? When will you do it? Get this down on paper and use your calendar to keep you on track. Once you know what you want, the rest is implementation.
5. You Achieve Your Goals
Goals are achieved when you are working hard towards them on a regular
basis. Your goals may not be reached on your timetable (most goals are not),
but trust that you will get there. Know that the work you put in today will
bring the rewards you seek tomorrow.
So what do you say? You only have one life to live so it might as well be a
life you love!
THIS MONTH: TOP QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF REGULARLY
Someone once observed that you learn more by the questions you ask than by the answers you give. Call it Socratic learning, if you will, but I find that asking questions of myself helps keep me on track. Here are ten I ask regularly.
1. What Am I Resisting?The seeds of growth lie in your resistance to what is new, unfamiliar, or unpleasant. All too often, the very things we resist most are the things that force us to grow the most. So, be attentive to those subtle gut-tightening signals that hint of an opportunity for learning.
2. What Is The Lesson Here?
There's a second step that is needed to reinforce the insight gained by asking the first question. In order to really benefit, we have to actually seek out the lesson, demonstrate that we really want to hear, and be willing to follow the often-subtle guidance that comes.
3. Have I Been Here Before?
Often our most pressing issues are thinly disguised versions of problems we've failed to solve in the past. Different names and faces maybe, but the same underneath, destined not to go away until we meet and resolve them once and for all. If your answer to this question is, yes, then maybe it's time to get to the bottom of the issue and solve it!
4. Am I Losing Energy To This?
We pay a price for every negative thought we entertain, and it's measured in decreased energy, heightened depression, reduced immune function, and sometimes serious illness. Although you may believe otherwise, we have to reach the place where anger, frustration, worry, and criticism have no place in our experience. Until we do, we are losing energy, diluting our focus, and rendering ourselves vulnerable.
5. Am I Holding On To Something I Need To Let Go Of?
One of the most difficult tasks of this life consists in letting go-of being stuck on certain outcomes, of ego, of our need to be right, and ultimately, of this life. You cannot fly unless you are willing to relinquish your firm footing on earth; flying requires that sort of faith, and commitment. The surprising thing is that, when we really let go, we begin to grow.
6. Am I In The Present?Every moment you spend regretting the past or worrying about the future is a moment of the present, lost. Yes, we need to resolve the past, wind up our unfinished business, and be attentive to trends that portend of future events, but we can take action only in the present. So, that's where your full attention needs to be, and staying in the present is a full time job.
7. What Do I Need To Do Now?
To act or not to act, that is the question. Whether tis nobler in the mind to take action against a sea of troubles and so by doing, prolong them, or to suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous inaction and so gain clarity. (Shakespeare would sue for what I've done to Hamlet's timeless prose) Put the question differently: is there a NEED for action now? Often, we act because we're afraid that, if we don't, things will get worse. The truth is that deliberate inaction is action, and it is often a way to allow a cloudy situation to become clear.
8. Who’s In Control Here?
True or false?: It's important to be in control of your life. Control can be a big issue for some people, especially if they feel they don't have it. So, granted, it's perfectly reasonable to want to feel in control. Letting go of the past, staying in the present, and taking action (including no action) are all ways to develop a sense that you are in control. But, let me suggest that there is a step beyond control. It is to recognize that, ultimately, you are NOT in control-that you are always subject to a higher authority. Paradoxically, this recognition and your acknowledgement of it can free you from the need to always be IN control.
9. What Is My Responsibility Here?
Have you noticed how some people have a need to involve others in their problems? If it's your boss, your significant other, or your child, it's normal to conclude that your have to do something. But, that something doesn't mean becoming part of the problem! Your responsibility, in this case, is to maintain a level of detachment that will enable you to see the situation clearly, and this clarity pertains not only to the solution, but to the extent that you should be involved in the problem in the first place.
10. Am I At Peace With This?
Do you know when you're at peace with something? Chances are, it's when you can look at an issue, person, or problem and feel no charge, no subtle or sudden surge of emotion. But peace is something more. It's about balance, an inner certainty that you are untouched by it, him, or her. The peace-check is a key element in gaining closure, in ascertaining that the situation is fully resolved.
This piece was written by Shale Paul, Coach in Personal Effectiveness, who can be reached at shale@shalecoach.com
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Are You Angry About Your Career?
(September 2005)
It's Not A Total Overhaul, It's Just Tweaking (August 2005)
Stop Retreating (July 2005)
Face Your Career Fears Head On (June 2005)
Find Direction (May 2005)
Keep Moving No Matter What. (April 2005)
Restore Your Integrity (March 2005)
Your Career Is More Than A To-Do List (February 2005)
Will This Be The Year? (January 2005)
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