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November,  2004, Issue #67

ARE YOU A BLAMER?


 

Previous E-Newsletters:

Maybe You Did Fail (October, 2004)

Get Understanding (September, 2004)

Find Direction (August, 2004)

Are You Where Does The Time Go?(July, 2004)

Are You Trying To Change Everything At Once?(June, 2004)

Are You A Worrier (May, 2004)

Are You Your Own Worst Enemy (April, 2004)

2003 The Unfilled Quest To Be Perfect. (March, 2004)

2003 What Happened To Your Dreams? (February, 2004)

2003 Are You Choosing Your Resolutions Or
Are They Choosing You?(January 2004)

2003 Newsletter Archive
2002 Newsletter Archive
2001 Newsletter Archive
2000 Newsletter Archive
1999 Newsletter Archive


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TABLE OF CONTENTS
  1. Are You A Blamer?
  2. How To End The Blame Game.
  3. Coaches Corner
  4. Great Resources

I. ARE YOU A BLAMER?

Who do you blame if something goes wrong in your career? Your boss or former boss? Your employer or past employer? Colleagues, family members, or the person who recently was hired and either took away your job or the promotion you wanted?

How about if no one is to blame, but someone is responsible? How about if the responsible person is you?

We are a society of blamers. (We all do it.) And even though we criticize others for not taking responsibility for their careers, when it’s our turn and something happens to us, we look outward to assign blame. And who would fault us? The job market has been tough and fear has been rampant. We need to point a finger at someone or something, and in many cases, the finger does not point in our direction.

I am not saying that you should walk around with the world on your shoulders if something in your career goes awry. I am saying to accept what happened,
learn from the experience, forgive yourself, make a plan to refocus, and then move on. Time will pass anyway. And how do you want to spend your time?
Mad at the world, mad at yourself, or on fire and moving in a positive direction?

Continue to Part II to find out more…

So, what do you say? You only have one life to live, so it might as well be a life you love!


DO YOU HATE YOUR JOB AND WANT TO GET OUT?  

You can get out with tips, techniques, and secrets from a renowned career coach, author, and career expert who can show you how.  

It’s tough when your job is not going well. Maybe you have a terrible boss that you cannot work for any longer. Maybe you have difficult co-workers who are driving you crazy. Maybe you are underpaid, unappreciated, tired, frustrated, stressed, overworked, and you just do not want to go into work anymore. Maybe you are bored out of your mind.  

Well, there is good news. There are proven tools, strategies, and resources you can use to help you make a decision about what to do next. If you want to get out of your current job, my Career Escape Program can give you the tools to do so.

The Career Escape Program was created as of a result of my work with hundreds of clients, many who hated their jobs and felt they were trapped and could not do anything about it. The components in this program are the components I used to walk my clients through their escape. I have captured these steps for those who want to know what they did and how they can apply it to their situation.

Visit to find our more: i-hate-my-job.html


II. HOW TO END THE BLAME GAME

1. Recognize What Blame Is Costing You

Sometimes blame feels good. We like to be right and if we are right, then another party has to be wrong. We feel vindicated because we know who hurt
us and why they are to blame. The downside to blame is we stay stuck and stagnant which makes us feel worse. When we are wronged, we have a decision
to make. Be right (and stuck) or be moving. Living well is always the best revenge.

2. Recognize That You Can Stop Being A Blamer

Blaming can be just as addictive as anything else. The adrenaline and the juice we feel makes us feel alive. But you can stop blame if you want to.
Sometimes we continue at habits or thoughts that no longer serve us because we are not sure who we would be without them. Trust that a new you will
emerge once you get rid of the blame. Trust that the answers and the direction you seek are there once the cloud of blame has been cleared.

3. Recognize That Without Responsibility There Can Be No Forward Movement

When you accept responsibility for your career, a sense of calm will emerge. No longer will your energies be focused outward but inward on you. You will
feel great, motivated, and empowered. Your sense of purpose and direction will reappear. You will enjoy being with you again.

4. Recognize That With A Plan Great Things Happens

Once you are responsible then you can be accountable. You can plan your work, and work your plan. You can open your calendar and put items into it
again. You can take your goals and break them into small achievable pieces. You can look towards the future and the future will be brighter. You can
move forward and achieve results. You can make plans and expect to reach them. You can be a person who used to be a blamer and one that has become a
goal reaching machine.


III. COACHES CORNER

Since many of my subscribers are coaches, this section is for you. It contains tips and techniques to take your coaching practice to the next level. 

Note: I have created a two-part teleclass series that walks you through the four steps to building a profitable coaching practice. It is based on my book Four Steps To Building A Profitable Coaching Practice: A Complete Resource Guide For Business and Life Coaches.  

If you are frustrated with trying to grow and market your coaching practice. Or, you feel like there is too much information (or too little) on how to market your practice, yet not enough direction on where to begin, this class gives you quick answers so marketing can be easy to apply and understand

NEW CLASSES ARE STARTING SOON. Please visit: foursteps.html to find out more.

 


THIS MONTH: TOP STEPS TO ENERGY COACHING

When you are responsible, you flow. By allowing this energy to flow, you
permit what needs to happen occur with your clients. So how do you harness
this energy?

1. Relax

2. Be Present In The Moment

3. Listen To Your Clients

4. Respect Your Client's Energy

5. Put Yourself In Your Client's World

6. When In Doubt Check Your Own Energy

7. Breathe

8. Speak With Compassion

9. Speak Clearly

10. Allow Yourself The Opportunity To Be Silent

The right energy starts with you!

Source: John A. Zenkewich who can be reached at AikiNY@aol.com, or http://lifespirit.com


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