All of us experience worry from time to time. However as individuals or leaders of others, it's important to recognize that if we allow ourselves to be constantly affected by negative influences in our daily work and personal surroundings, then the companions of worry and stress become the constant environment in which we live. Furthermore worry and stress become the very foundation upon which we make decisions, and frequently in this state, the wrong ones!

1. What Worry Is

Worry is caused by continuous negative thoughts that develop into anxiety and stress. It creates fear or "False Experiences Appearing Real". Another way of looking at worry is as "negative imagination" or "negative goal setting." Worry is a mental response to a situation. If you have learned to worry, you can learn new skills to become aware of and eliminate the behavior.

2. Worry Is Fear

Another way of looking at worry is to see it as a sustained form of fear caused by indecision. If you are constantly suffering from worry, a good question to ask yourself is "what constant problem in my life do I avoid making a decision about?" Defining the problem (on paper) frees your mind to focus on alternative solutions.

3. SOAR Is The Anti-Dote To Worry

SOAR is a formula that can give you a clear understanding of your problems and a method for solving them. It consists of the following four steps:

S = Situation.

What exactly is the situation you are being confronted with? Write down all of the problem's components. Be sure to identify any new components that aren't apparent at first glance. Ask people close to you for their input. For example, if you are facing a career problem, then ask people in your life for their opinion. After you clearly define your problem, you may find that the solution appears out of the information gathered.

O = Obstacles.

Write down all existing and potential obstacles that may get in your way.

A = Action.

What action is required of you or members of your team to overcome the obstacles? Remember that you can't worry about something if you are working towards fixing it!

4. Live One Day At A Time. 

Some problems just can't be solved overnight. Therefore, accept a written step-by-step approach towards resolution. Don't be overwhelmed by your deadlines. Instead, tell yourself: "it's best to do what I can, where I am, with what I have, and I won't worry about the rest." 

5. Get The Facts Fact-finding is a great problem-solving skill. 

Sure quick thinking and decision-making are required to solve certain problems, but many problems don't require instant answers. The same applies to any worry that is currently affecting your career or your life. Define what you are worried about. Then, get the facts you need to resolve your worry the right way, not the rushed way. 

6. Determine The Worst Possible Outcome (WPO) But Plan For The Best Outcome 

If nothing can be done to avoid a particular outcome, accept that outcome. Usually, a carefully considered course of action can help you achieve your desired result. But when in doubt or in limbo, acknowledge that the worst may occur, but plan for the best. This is key to reducing (or eliminating!) your level of worry. Worries may never disappear, but you can control how you react to them. Although worrying is not fun, it does build character, and it does make you stronger for the next worry. You can handle more than you think. Trust that the universe has sent you this worry for a reason. Trust that the solution will appear once you make a commitment to find one.

About the Author: This piece was written by Nigel Williams, Brian Tracy International Australia, who can be reached at lomholt@fox.net.au

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