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Current Issue: December 2002,
Issue #44 ARE YOU A WORRIER? |
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Welcome to Surpass Your Dreams. The goal of the newsletter and weekly tips is to help you recognize your potential and surpass your dreams. Included are tips for either transitioning into a career you love, excelling in the career you have now, or creating balance in your life.
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Many of us are worried about the uncertainly in our careers. We worry that we won't find employment, keep the employment we have, or survive the demands of an increasing workload. Worrying is tough. It keeps us up at night questioning our future and ourselves.
So, why do we worry? We worry when we have a situation in front of us and we are scared that it won't work out. We are afraid that we will make the wrong decision (again), fail, or look bad in front of others. This fear keeps us from seeing a way out.
In addition, we get something out of worrying. As long as we worry, then we don't have to do anything about what's troubling us. If some "outside" thing is happening to us, then we don't have to take any action to correct it. Plus, we get to blame whomever or whatever, and we get to be right.
Action, despite your circumstances is what will move you forward. Worrying is what will hold you back.
Once you take steps toward finding a solution to what you are worrying about, you will get the power and control back into your life. Start with something small. Small steps will take you to the next step, which takes you closer to a solution.
Trust that no matter how daunting and unsolvable your career situation seems at the moment, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Trust that you will find a way to work it out. Trust that you will be able to handle whatever comes your way. Eliminate worrying so you can make room for something more positive instead.
So, what do you say? You only have one life to live, so it might as well be a life you love!
II. TOP WAYS TO REDUCE WORRY IN YOUR WORKPLACE AND AT HOME
All of us experience worry from time to time. However as individuals or leaders of others, it's important to recognize that if we allow ourselves to be constantly affected by negative influences in our daily work and personal surroundings, then the companions of worry and stress become the constant environment in which we live. Furthermore worry and stress become the very foundation upon which we make decisions, and frequently in this state, the wrong ones!
1. What Worry Is
Worry is caused by continuous negative thoughts that develop into anxiety and stress. It creates fear or "False Experiences Appearing Real". Another way of looking at worry is as "negative imagination" or "negative goal setting." Worry is a mental response to a situation. If you have learned to worry, you can learn new skills to become aware of and eliminate the behavior.
2. Worry Is Fear
Another way of looking at worry is to see it as a sustained form of fear caused by indecision. If you are constantly suffering from worry, a good question to ask yourself is "what constant problem in my life do I avoid making a decision about?" Defining the problem (on paper) frees your mind to focus on alternative solutions.
3. SOAR Is The Anti-Dote To Worry
SOAR is a formula that can give you a clear understanding of your problems and a method for solving them. It consists of the following four steps:
S = Situation.
What exactly is the situation you are being confronted with? Write down all of the problem's components. Be sure to identify any new components that aren't apparent at first glance. Ask people close to you for their input. For example, if you are facing a career problem, then ask people in your life for their opinion. After you clearly define your problem, you may find that the solution appears out of the information gathered.
O = Obstacles.
Write down all existing and potential obstacles that may get in your way.
A = Action.
What action is required of you or members of your team to overcome the obstacles? Remember that you can't worry about something if you are working towards fixing it!
R = Results. What results do you wish to achieve as a result of your action? Sometimes when completing the SOAR exercise you may prefer to initially focus upon the results you want to achieve. When this part of the process has been completed, revert back to the start of the SOAR formula to determine where you are now in relation to where you want to go. 4. Live One Day At A Time. Some problems just can't be solved overnight. Therefore, accept a written step-by-step approach towards resolution. Don't be overwhelmed by your deadlines. Instead, tell yourself: "it's best to do what I can, where I am, with what I have, and I won't worry about the rest." 5. Get The Facts Fact-finding is a great problem-solving skill. Sure quick thinking and decision-making are required to solve certain problems, but many problems don't require instant answers. The same applies to any worry that is currently affecting your career or your life. Define what you are worried about. Then, get the facts you need to resolve your worry the right way, not the rushed way. 6. Determine The Worst Possible Outcome (WPO) But Plan For The Best Outcome If nothing can be done to avoid a particular outcome, accept that outcome. Usually, a carefully considered course of action can help you achieve your desired result. But when in doubt or in limbo, acknowledge that the worst may occur, but plan for the best. This is key to reducing (or eliminating!) your level of worry. Worries may never disappear, but you can control how you react to them. Although worrying is not fun, it does build character, and it does make you stronger for the next worry. You can handle more than you think. Trust that the universe has sent you this worry for a reason. Trust that the solution will appear once you make a commitment to find one. About the Author: This piece was written by Nigel Williams, Brian Tracy International Australia, who can be reached at lomholt@fox.net.au
YOU CAN HAVE A CAREER YOU LOVE!
Do you want a career you love? If you answered YES,
then working with a coach may be your next move!
If you answered YES to any of the above, then working
with a coach may be your next move. Many people who have
worked with me can now say "I love what I do!"
HERE IS WHAT ONE CLIENT HAD TO SAY:
"If I had again the $1,000 I had spent previously on employment agencies, it would have been much better spent and been of higher value if I used the money for coaching with you. I hope your coaching practice takes you to great heights. You are a true success in my eyes."
(Gary Woltal, Regional Sales Manager, Dallas, TX)
ACT NOW! Take the first step and visit http://www.surpassyourdreams.com to find out how to get started. Since many of my newsletter subscribers are coaches, this section is for you. It contains tips and techniques
to take your coaching practice to the next level. UNDERSTAND WHAT'S IMPORTANT TO YOUR PROSPECTS
When you are on the phone with prospects are you telling them about you, or are you asking them about them? If you have great conversations with prospects who conclude by saying "Let me think about hiring you as my coach," then you didn't find out and address what was important to them. People buy for several reasons. Here are some of the top ones:
1. People Want To Earn More Money.
They may want to start their own business, get a higher paying job, or invest wisely. Financial freedom will make them feel more successful.
2. People Want To Save Money.
They may want to invest for the future or save for a big purchase. Saving will make them feel more secure.
3. People Want To Save Time.
They may want to work less and spend time enjoying life's pleasures. Extra time will make them feel more relaxed.
4. People Want To Look Better.
They may want to lose weight, tone their body, or improve their facial features. A new look will make them feel more attractive.
5. People Want To Learn Something New.
They may want to learn how to build a business or a new deck. New skills will make them feel more intelligent.
6. People Want To Live Longer.
They may want to get in shape, eat better, or gain extra energy. A healthy lifestyle will make them feel more confident about themselves.
7. People Want To Be Comfortable.
They may want to relieve aches and pains or want to sleep in a more comfortable bed. Comfort will make them feel more comfortable.
8. People Want To Be Popular.
They may want to be a famous celebrity or be more popular at work. Recognition will make them feel more admired.
Discover what your prospects want and then put yourselves in their shoes so you can provide it. They will appreciate it and be more inclined to buy from you.
About the Author: This list above was written by Larry Dotson, the President of L.D. Publishing. Larry can be reached at
LDotson920@aol.com
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