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I. DO YOU WISH YOU COULD RELAX?
Do you have a hard time relaxing? Do you have trouble sitting still? Do you wish you could enjoy your down time (no matter how little) without worrying about what you need to do?
We are a society filled with so much to do that we are left overwhelmed most of the time. A "to-do" list rules our lives. We would be lost without it. But the item missing from our to-do lists is us.
People tell me that they would like to relax, but claim that they cannot find room in their schedules to do so. They would relax (Really) if only they could find the time. But when I ask people what they do when they do have a few moments to spare, they tell me that they add more items to their to do list, then worry how it will all get done.
Not relaxing costs you more than you think. It costs you the ability to be close with your friends, families, and co-workers. It costs you the ability to listen to people. It costs you the ability to sympathize. It costs you fun and joy. How can it not when you are always thinking about the next thing you have to do?
What good can you be to the people around you when you are constantly wound up, anxious, and consumed with everything that you need to do? You will always have things to do. It is up to you to decide if it will take over your life or not.
So what can you do? You can realize that this is your life we are talking about. And, that you deserve to relax. You deserve down time, and you deserve to have room for it.
There is a better way, but you have to choose it. You have to choose time for yourself, and choose to enjoy it. Relaxing may be hard in the beginning, but taking time for yourself will recharge you and give you the energy to take care of your busy schedule. If you do not relax, then you will always be running on empty.
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II. TOP WAYS TO RELAX WHEN YOU ONLY HAVE TEN MINUTES!
This list will give you ideas of what you can do if you only have 10 minutes to relax.
1. At The Office, Find Some Peace & Quiet!
Go to a quiet area (Close your office door, retreat to the bathroom, or find an area that is infrequently used). Sit quietly and think of your favorite movie, TV show, person, or travel place. Close your eyes if alone. Just "shifting" to a very positive thought for ten minutes can relax you profoundly.
2. At Home, Take Your Own Quiet "Timeout."
Find the most quiet comfortable area and lie down or recline. Close your eyes and listen to relaxing music & think only of things you LOVE to do, see, or experience. Allow the phone to ring; the answering machine will pick it up. Savor the moments. Allow your muscles to relax and your eyes to rest.
3. Use Water.
Take a very warm shower or bath and let the water relax your muscles. Scent the bath water if you wish. If possible, have some relaxing music in the room. Dim the lights. Light a scented candle. Let the stress dissolve into the water and be washed away by it. Imagine you are a part of the water itself. Just allow your mind & body to go.
4. Meditate or Pray.
Learning how to calm the mind and body through meditation, self-relaxation, or prayer is very helpful. Once learned, it can be used virtually anywhere and at any time. If you need instruction, buy a book or tape at your local bookstore on meditation, self-relaxation, etc. Keep a small book of positive affirmations or prayers near you to look at, repeat silently, or to reflect.
5. Exercise.
Okay, the nasty "E" word! . Seriously, 10 minutes of simple walking briskly, riding a stationary bike, Yoga, or other aerobic activity will help rid your body of a lot of accumulated adrenaline-like "stress related" chemicals, You will find yourself both more relaxed and more alert after this seemingly moderate amount of activity.
6. "Hit The Road!"
If possible, take a 10 minute spin in your car in a quiet and uncongested neighborhood, if possible. If the weather is good, roll down the window and breathe in the fresh air, even if it is a bit cool out! Relax to the radio, look at the landscape, the people walking, and even the clouds in the sky (keep your eyes on the road, and no cell phones, of course!). If you feel like it, sing along with the music! It's *your* 10 minutes!
7. Take A "Chill Out" Break. Simple, And It Works!
Run cold water and soak a wash cloth or towel in it. Apply the cool compress to your eyes, forehead, face, and neck areas. Hold the cloth in each area several seconds, eyes closed. If you can sit down, all the better. Re-apply several times. Concentrate on the soothing effects and don't think of how much time it takes. You'll emerge more relaxed and refreshed than you might ever imagine!
8. Call Someone Just To Chat.
Call a parent, a spouse, a friend. Make sure when you call they have 10 minutes to talk, and tell them you are calling to *relax* and take your mind off your day. If they are not in a positive mood, say goodbye as soon as you can, and try someone else. The point is, the chat needs to be with someone who is happy to hear from you, who will not "dump" THEIR stress on you, and who you really like. Make sure to announce up front that it is a "de-stress" call for you, but do not "dump" on *them* either. Tell jokes, talk about anything that is fun, relaxing, or interesting.
9. Get A Healthy Snack And Eat It ALONE.
Stress deprives us of vitamins, minerals, blood sugar and calories. A healthy snack like a piece of fruit, a granola bar, a glass of juice or skim milk can revive us. If eaten or drunk slowly in a quiet atmosphere (as quiet as you can find) it can recharge our emotional and physical batteries. Avoid anything with caffeine or nicotine or alcohol in it! The "sense" of relaxation those chemicals give you is either purely psychological, or temporary, and you will end up more tense than when you began.
10. At Your Computer.
Take 10 minutes to play a computer game or find one on the web. Make sure the game is quiet, non-violent and does not last an hour. The point is to have fun. Just by *playing* you are "winning."
About the Author: This piece was written by Dennis R. Tesdell, Personal Development & Self-Care Coach, who can be reached at lifecoach@coachdt.com
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