Welcome to Surpass Your Dreams. The goal of this newsletter is to help you recognize your potential and surpass your dreams. This issue is dedicated to discovering if success is reality or illusion.

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1. Is Success An Illusion?
2. Top Myths About Being Successful
3. What Do You Think?
4. Last Month
5. Great Resources

I. IS SUCCESS AN ILLUSION?

Do you consider yourself to be successful? If the answer is no, then I ask "why not?"

Success can mean many things to many people. For some it's getting the big house, the fancy car, or the high powered job. For others it's getting married and having a family. No matter what success means to you, it's up to you to reach it.

Do you believe that you can find success? Do you believe that success only happens to other people? Would you like to have success, but are afraid to take the leap? The only one holding you back is you. Why not go for it, and live a life you love?

I used to think that success had to look a certain way. I thought I had to have a high powered job in order to respect myself and be respected by others. I've had jobs that fit this picture, but I was never happy. Sure people "ooh-ed" and "ah-ed" when I told them that I worked for a giant corporation, but what was missing was what I wanted. I finally gave up the job so I could spend more time on my coaching practice. At first, I was afraid what others would think, but I discovered I was happier in a simpler job that had less stress and fewer hours. And, I could have more time to motivate others.

Yes, I took the path of less money initially, but following my dreams of being a coach has paid off financially as well spiritually. I am successful because I am doing what I love.

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II. TOP MYTHS ABOUT BEING SUCCESSFUL

1. Some People Can't Be Successful Because Of Their Background, Education, Etc.
   Anybody can be successful. It's a matter of discovering what's right for you, then going after it.
   
2. Successful People Don't Make Mistakes.
   Successful people make mistakes just like we all do. Forgive yourself, and move on.
   
3. You've Got To Work 60 (70, 80, 90...) Hours A Week To Be Successful.
   It's not a matter of doing A LOT of something. It's more about doing what's right for you.
4. You'll Only Be A Success If You Play By The Rules.
   Who makes up the rules anyway? Each situation is different. Sometimes following the rules is needed; other times making up your own rules is what's required.
   
5. If You Have Help Along The Way, It's Not Success.
   Success rarely occurs in a vacuum. Recognize the people who help you become successful; there are plenty of them. Thank them for their contribution and assistance.
6. It Takes A Lot Of Luck To Be Successful.
   It takes *some* luck to be successful, sure. It takes a lot more hard work, diligence, knowledge, and application. Do what you love and success will follow.
7. It's Only Success If You Make A Lot Of Money.
   Money is just one of many benefits to success, but it's not the only one.
8. It's Only Success If Everybody Knows It.
   You may get more money and more accolades as more people know about what you've done. But, even if you reach the finish line, and you were the only one who knew it, you'd still be successful. Success is how you feel about yourself on the inside.
9. Success Is Not A Goal.
   Success is more than what you get when you achieve the goals you've set for yourself. Saying that you "want to be a success" begs the question: "At what?" Success is a journey, not a destination.
10. Once I'm Successful, My Troubles Are Over.
    You may be successful, but you're not God. You'll still have the ups and downs of every day life that you did before. Enjoy your successes, big and small, and love each day as it comes.

About the Author: This piece was written by Jim M. Allen, Business & Life Success Coach, who can be reached at Jim@CoachJim.Com

III. WHAT DO YOU THINK?

The best thing about writing this newsletter is the e-mails I get from you.

I have dedicated this section to you so you can have a place to share yourselves and have your words touch others in the same way that they touch me.

This month's topic is devoted to discovering if success is reality or illusion. Do you believe that you are successful? Do you wish you were? Are you successful and would like to share your tips with others?

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I'm responding to your request for personal stories about people speaking and listening.

People Listen To Me When I Speak Because:

a) I have confidence in myself and in what I am saying and that comes across

b) I listen to others and respect their opinions

c) I am honest and passionate about what I believe and say. Sometimes this is hard for me and for others (I can get more emotional than I want to at times), but I and others know that I am saying what I mean and am committed to it. People - adults and children - usually sense when they are being lied to, patronized or humored, and this is not an effective way to get listened to (or to feel good about yourself.)

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WAY TO GO SIOBHAN!

ARE YOU READY FOR PERSONAL COACHING?

Are you living a life you love? Are you making commitments and sticking to them? Are you living your dreams?

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING AFTER BEING COACHED:

"I recognize that I am powerful and successful."

"I have tremendous power in shaping my reality and influencing all people with whom I come into contact with."

"I take full responsibility for my life and have stopped blaming others for my mistakes."

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IV. LAST MONTH

Last month's issue was dedicated to discovering if people listen to you when you speak.

Why would people hear you if they believe you are uninterested in what have to saying? People know when they are being heard and they react in kind.

So How Do You Get Them To Listen?

To read this issue, as well as other past issues, go to my newsletter archive at the top of this page.

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